In Pursuit of an Organized Life

. . . putting life in order

Should vs Have To

I’ve been thinking about what I should do vs what I have to do recently.  The “Have To” tasks are the ones that have a clear deadline or consequences if they aren’t completed.  Garbage comes on Friday morning—if I procrastinate on garbage and put it out Friday afternoon—-no garbage pick up for me.  If I decide not to go to work or not to do a specific work task, it affects how others think of me and my job security.  I usually have found a way to get all of the essential tasks done.  The “Should” tasks are ones that can always be done later or are more of a preference.

Lately,  I’ve been spending more time on the “Should” tasks.  For the longest time, I did all of the required tasks and then if there was time I’d get to the other stuff or spend time procrastinating and not getting any tasks done. Getting to the filing that I am months behind on and spending more time on the self care stuff.   It helps me get rid of some of those nagging feelings of “I wish this was different” or “I really should do that”.   Sometimes it makes the other tasks seem easier or gives me the motivation to complete the other tasks.     It’s taking some of the power away from the “Have To”.  I may need to get it done, but I can spend less time on it.  We have to eat, but it can be a 3 course meal, quick fix, or take out.


As always, it’s a work in progress.   Enjoy your day!

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System Update

I’m liking my new system for routine activities. It’s low tech, but it’s functional. It feels satisfying to transfer a card from “To Do” to “Done”.  In many ways more so than crossing it off a list.  I love the fact that I can take them out and move them around to plan out my day or look at what I’ve accomplished.  The different colors help to see if I’m out of balance in one area.  I can see quickly that I haven’t done any fitness related tasks or that I only have a few chores left to do.

I have a few tasks that I will likely change.   I can probably take out—“Take a shower”.   While it’s sometimes relaxing, its mostly just something that gets done.  I probably don’t need a card to remind me of it either.  I’ll have to think of some other self care item to replace it with.  I’m not sure what though.   It feels like I’ve gone away some of my old interests, but haven’t found new ones to replace it yet.  On the other hand, my fitness goals are fufilling that area as well.  I’ll probably change some of the chores as I figure out who does what with my husband.

I was going to post a picture of my system, but I can’t find the camera.   I better put “Clean Counter” and “Tidy Family Room” higher on my list.   😉

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